There are so many things to describe parenthood – it is obviously amazing, wonderful and well, all the other good words. When you were expecting your first child, your friends and family, probably gave you words of advice, encouragement and shared your excitement, but what they failed to mention to you was that you would suffer the same fate as your child’s favorite toy!
The four stages of being your child’s favorite toy:
1. The can’t get enough of you stage – where long, luxurious showers and having a clean house is a MYTH
2. The abusive stage – Or better known as the “I’m so done with you and I’ve finally figured out how to fight back, so here I come stage” (I am currently in this stage and I have been nursing a lot of cuts, bruises, swelling and bust mouths – all my own, just by the way)
3. The I CAN do without you stage – That’s when they get another toy and throw you away – this one lasts for a couple of years actually, when school, friends and life is all better than you protecting them from the world’s most terrible things
4. I remember that toy, where is it now stage – This is when they grow and realise that they used to have a favorite toy, the toy that was there when they threw it around and was next to them to comfort them when they felt upset or unsafe. That’s when they want their favorite toy back – mine was tweety bird by the way, and my mum kept it right up until now. My kids play with it.
I can now say, that I am an abused parent. I get beaten everyday by my two little rascals, from a bust lip to a blood clotted foot, I’ve had them all. It is not the result of something that happens in my home (like spousal abuse or child abuse), but the result of the VERY violent cartoons they show on tv! I watched a cartoon the other day and they actually used a swear word in it!
Generally, the words kids say, the way behave and whatever else they do outside the home are taken as things that they witness or are taught at home. I would like people (outsiders looking in and making judgements), to realise that we are in the 21st century and tv’s are in households worldwide. Whatever they get to see on tv, if it looks amazing to them, kids are going to do it. You can’t blame the parent for that nor the upbringing that the parent is giving the child.
To parents, whose kids are as badly behaved as mine, don’t worry, This too shall pass – or get worse (which I think is going to happen with mine, they are already picking up things from the tv, what’s going to happen when they get to school? ) but anyway, it doesn’t matter. As they grow, you will make it better. Children are like clay, they need to moulded. I am sure that you will mould your child to be a good individual and the reason that I am sure of it is because outside influences are temporary, but a parent’s influence is there forever.
So even though, you are an abused parent like me (I think we should start a support group!), once they have grown, you will no longer be their favorite toy and as all teenagers do, they will probably start to avoid you. Enjoy your beatings now, enjoy them playing with your ears (my daughter bites mine!), enjoy the random kisses and hugs, enjoy every little bit of them because time flies so fast that soon, you will begin to miss those little things.
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.