So for today’s #ThursdayTruths, I’m experiencing some nostalgia around the biggest truth of my life. The biggest truth of my life is that my relationship was a coincidence that was intended to happen! A few days ago, I had a look at some old photos. They were pictures of our proposal, wedding and reception. These images held some of my most treasured memories and then I noticed a pattern. A pattern emerged between the images of the three functions, a pattern that I had not noticed before. My husband was caught looking at me while I wasn’t even looking at him. You remember, when you were younger, there was this quote that was always loved, “The best feeling in the world is when you look up to look at him and he’s already looking at you” (or something like that) . Yeah, this was it. No really. Although I hadn’t noticed it at the time, I did now and suddenly I was thankful. Thankful that I had someone that loved me when I wasn’t trying, someone that had my back always and that in every picture of us, held my hand. Boy, was I lucky!
When I looked at my wedding photos, I immediately remembered the excitement of my wedding. The laughs and smiles of my immediate family at the night before function, all excited for the next day. My wonderful family, how you have supported me! I am so greatful! It didn’t matter what they had to do, they did it. It didn’t matter what they had to cancel to be there, they were there. Always. And every time. Yes, that is the true meaning of family. We may not see each other that often because I am far away, but know that wherever I go, I carry you with me in my heart.
All this nostalgia also reminded me that marriage is hard work. Although marriage is between a husband and wife, there are two entire families involved. You’ve now got to allocate equal amounts of time for each family and keep your cool when need be. All the way through dating is fine, you are not living together, you do not have to put up with socks thrown centimetres away from the laundry basket nor do you have to put with the shower being occupied for hours. When you live together, adjustments have to be made, compromises have to be considered and certain things are just let go. This does not mean being unhappy, it means keeping each other happy and that in turn, shall make you happy.
We have had our fair share of drama through the years, with random people from the past just popping up out of the blue! Even today, we have our ‘stalkers’ etc and although they are not important enough to make an entire post about, I will give them a thumbs up because they are good for my ratings??
Anyway, it’s been 5 years that Avi and I are together; so please, can you just get over it already?!?!
In these past 5 years, I have learned to live with all Avi’s creepy ways, the same way that he has learned to live with mine. Although we are very different, our core aspects are very similar and I think that’s the great part of our marriage. WE are:
1. Always ready to try stuff together – no questions asked
2. loooove old school music
3. choose our battles with each other
4. agree on the way that we parent
5. are total opposites in the ways that matter
In 5 years, we have come a long way. I have watched Avi grow into a father and a husband. He makes me so proud with who is he today. He hasn’t had it easy and I hope that I make life and living, a little easier than it used to be for him. From a thug to a father and husband, he has managed to do a total 360 and I am so proud of him. I am so thankful for all that he has done, changed and given up for this little family of ours and I pray that we all continue to grow with laughter, love and togetherness. I could have never imagined that the boy that I grew up waving hello to, would be the one that I never want to say goodbye to. Clearly, someone, somewhere had made this plan for us. Call it fate, destiny, God or simply the Universe …whatever It is, It’s plan was perfect.
I will uploading more pictures of my special day on my instagram account! So check me out there, also, upload some of yours and tag me (@thehappymumsa) and use the hashtag #WTB ..
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.