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We bought a zoo! Okay, no, but we’ve bought a home! {The Gobin’s are making one last move!}

Yes people, The Gobin’s have finally purchased a home! For 5 years, we’ve moved around from Mooi River to Richards Bay and within those 5 years, we’ve also moved house more than 6 times. After a great struggle (post to follow on The Opinionated Wife), we managed to bag our perfect house, one that we are about to renovate and make into a home!

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For years, I looked at others having beautiful homes and wished that I could have my own. I joined the blogging community and watched as other mom bloggers decorated their homes, held parties for their kids and of course, showed off their awesome home offices. I’ve wished and wished for a small corner with a desk and a light, a neatly set up laptop and pretty notebook with lots of sticky notes on the wall and ideas on a white board. I haven’t figured out where exactly that corner is going to be, but I know that I will have it.

For 5 long months I waited to be able to share this news with you, with my family and the rest of the world. We began this process in Richards Bay and 5 months ago, we were looking for houses in Durban. I can’t explain to you how hard this process would have been if we did not have my parents. 5 years ago (I’ve just noticed that 5 seems to be our lucky number!), my husband and I described a house to each other. A flat house, with so many bedrooms and space for our children to play. He, of course, wanted a beautiful kitchen and I, wanted my own bathroom. When we were looking for houses online, we did not even think about this house that we spoke about, and the prices of houses in a good area were (and still are) ridiculous!

We were in Richards Bay, so we would check for a house online, call the estate agent to see if it was still available, forward the link and phone number to my dad and he would make the appointment. He, together with my mother, viewed many houses for us at all hours of the day. When we came across our house, there were no images online of it, but my husband had a feeling and put in an offer without even having a look. My parents thereafter had a look and with the way that they described the house, they were satisfied. You see, we hardly ever make a big purchase without asking my dad’s opinion. He has supported us through all our rough times and he has always given us sound advice. My husband has purchased two cars without even seeing it, my dad’s stamp of approval is enough for us.

Without seeing the house, we signed the papers for it in Richards Bay and began the process. When we did see the house, we both realized that it’s the same house that we described to each other years ago. Years ago, we planted the seed and here we are today, at a fruit bearing tree. Our house is still not yet ready for us to move in because we want to do some renovations on it. Once done, we will decorate (a part that I can’t wait to do!) and after that, we will be moving in!

My close friends and family, all know how much I wanted my own home and how badly I wanted it before the baby arrived. I can’t explain my happiness on knowing that we have our own place, our own home.

My husband really wanted to give me this house. I know he didn’t want to disappoint me and I know that his heart just wants to make mine happy. I jokingly say he’s a bad man all the time, but I know that his heart is filled with love for us. We are different people, so we’re bound to have our ups and downs but what’s important is that we never lose sight of what’s important and that is our family.

He could not be here with me to pick up the house keys, so I video called him after I was done. I was so happy and I could see that he too, was happy from his heart. I don’t know whether he was just happy about the house, but with the way he spoke to me, I feel that he was more happy about the fact that he could provide the house for me and the kids. I am so thankful to him for giving up his vices and prioritizing us as a family unit. I couldn’t be more proud of him, for what he has become.

I often thank him for the many things that he does and I don’t like to demand or ask for much. It’s not because he wouldn’t give it to me, but it’s because that I know that he would try his best to do it. I don’t want to be the person that puts an extra stress on him, instead I want to help him out but whenever I have asked for anything, between my father and my husband, they have found a way to give it to me. I just want the both of them to know that I appreciate that. I appreciate everything that they have done and everything that they do for me because I know that they would move heaven and earth for me, and that’s something special.

So, for the next few weeks (or months!), I will be a little house obsessed; getting the house ready BEFORE the baby arrives! I just want everyone to know that it’s possible. Getting a house, or a car, or whatever it is that you want, is possible. It may take some time, like for us it took 5 years, but it will come and it will come at a time that is right for you. When it’s your turn, it doesn’t matter if you’re at the back of the waiting line; God/The Universe/Who or whatever you believe in, will definitely push you to the front of that line.

Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.

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