I love being a mom. I remember when Ralee was born, the doctors placed this tiny little baby on my chest and there I was, a mother again! Ralee was born at 3kgs on the 27th of March 2017. Even though she was a good weight, it was mostly her bone structure that carried most of it. She was really just a tiny little angel and no one wanted to handle her because she looked so delicate. As a mom, you can’t pass up on any of your duties, so you just gotta be extra careful and do your thing! From the beginning I wanted to protect Ralee from the world, perhaps that is why it gives me such great anxiety to leave her in someone else’s care.
This weeks #ThursdayTruths is a bit different from the past. Truthfully speaking there are times that we don’t stop to think before we speak, and when I say “we”, I am referring to myself as well. We may not realise it but although words bring great happiness at times, they are also sometimes the source of great pain and sadness.
You know the saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me“? Well that is obviously true in the physical sense but words can sometimes bring about great heartache, especially to those emotional souls like myself.
Here are five quotes for my #ThursdayTruths today regarding thinking before speaking..
“Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out”
“Be careful with your words. Once they are spoken, they can only be forgiven, not forgotten”
“Open your mind before you open your mouth”
“Always remember, every word you speak has the power to either HURT or HEAL”
“10% of conflicts are because of difference in opinion, 90% are because of TONE OF VOICE”
Cheating, okay wait, Adultery.. because that is the correct term right? Is said to be one of the main reasons for separations and divorce. The range of excuses from those who cheat range from boredom to just plain old curiosity. Apparently, nearly 1 in 5 married people will cheat on their spouse, with men being more likely to step out than woman. There are no real tell tale warning signs and while you may know that your spouse is cheating, without irrefutable proof they will just deny it continuously, sometimes turning it around on you and calling you crazy and insecure. A few signs that have been noticed include the following:
So for today’s #ThursdayTruths, I’m experiencing some nostalgia around the biggest truth of my life. The biggest truth of my life is that my relationship was a coincidence that was intended to happen! A few days ago, I had a look at some old photos. They were pictures of our proposal, wedding and reception. These images held some of my most treasured memories and then I noticed a pattern. A pattern emerged between the images of the three functions, a pattern that I had not noticed before. My husband was caught looking at me while I wasn’t even looking at him. You remember, when you were younger, there was this quote that was always loved, “The best feeling in the world is when you look up to look at him and he’s already looking at you” (or something like that) . Yeah, this was it. No really. Although I hadn’t noticed it at the time, I did now and suddenly I was thankful. Thankful that I had someone that loved me when I wasn’t trying, someone that had my back always and that in every picture of us, held my hand. Boy, was I lucky!
So I’m sure if you’ve taken a look at my blog there has been a few major changes. Apart from the appearance, my style of writing has adapted to more of my own literal way of speaking, I’ve also included themes for each day of the week and I send out a few random opinion posts along the way. From the response that I have been getting, it looks as though the change has benefited my blog in the sense that more of you are getting connected to me. I am thankful. Thank you for your readership.
So, my life being as hectic as it is, raised a few eyebrows with my immediate family and my husband decided that it was time to send me to the spa. Great right? Yep, I was so excited. Firstly, because all the strain that I was taking was actually noticed and secondly, because I had never ever been to a spa in all my life. I was super excited. I was also worried, super worried. Who would look after my daughter for the 3 hours that I would be getting pampered at the spa? Would she even stay with anyone? My son was no trouble. He would stay with my husband or my parents happily. Ralee however, always looked for me.
We begin our days with Goodmornings and Hello’s. We spend all day conversing finding out things for our jobs, our lives, sometimes just having a plain old catch up. I spend my days trying to manage and maintain a home, trying to work from home and trying to ensure that the roof over our head isn’t being burned to ashes by my kids.
My day involves a lot of shouts, a few warnings here and there, the ocassional screaming match between brother and sister, alot of tag team fights where usually I’m the one that’s left without a partner and obviously fights in which I am the referee.
We go through the motions of the day quite routinely, and we should be as we’ve been doing this for 3 years now. When it comes to bed time, we usually watch Generations the Legacy on SABC 1 at 8, we wait for the Uzalo theme song to play (because my kids have this ritual to sing along to it.. don’t even ask me why because I really have no idea!) and then we begin our lock up routine. After that the kids have to help their dad bring our air cooler in to the room and then they begin to nag for their milk. Once we get in bed then the kids stories of the day will start and our son will begin to talk. Once they finally get settled, quiten down and begin to fall asleep, we whisper apologies in their ears for the scoldings that we have given them, any injuries or falls that may have occurred during the day (and believe me, even a slight misbalance is a HUGE deal and apparently requires hospitalization… yeah, its ALL drama with us lol). We shower them with kisses, speak about their naughty but loveable ways and smile ourselves to sleep.
I didn’t realize when this became our bedtime ritual but last night when we were putting the kids to sleep, I heard my husband apologizing (the kids were fighting with each other) to my son, and I realized that I do the very same thing every day as well.
Its so amazing how wonderful these little things can make you feel. Recently, I’ve been hearing of so many people passing away. When you think of people passing away, you are always forced to face the fact that life cannot be taken for granted. Small moments like our bed time routine is what life is made of. These amazing moments will be a present to you when you stroll down memory lane, and open each memory, made with so much love.
Live each moment by following your heart and make the best and most amazing memories.