Having two kids close together isn’t as hard as you think!
August 25, 2017
Having kids a year a part from each other is cutting is close, I agree. But it is not insane! Don’t be afraid mothers’ and mothers’-to-be, it’s not as scary as everyone makes it seem!
Are you pregnant for the second time in two years? Have you fallen prey to the tut-tuts, the awful comments about how hard it is going to be for you and instead of just the word congratulations, you hear people say “get ready for trouble?” Or maybe you are lucky, and people have just accepted it, embraced it and been less dramatic about it. If you are on the latter side, LUCKY YOU!
Often, the moment people get wind of you having kids close together, even if you are not the one panicking, someone, somewhere is doing it for you! Someone is wondering how will you manage with two little kids and how will take care of them on your own!
Let me tell you, IT ISN’T THAT BAD!
I have two beautiful kids, they are wonderful and amazing, but I have to admit that they are a handful. They are not far apart in age, my son was born on March 11th, 2015 and my daughter was born on March 27th, 2016. Some people were of the opinion that it was a terrible idea to have them so close together, I have to admit that they did make me nervous.
To be honest, after coming all this way with them, I have to admit that it was not a bad thing. I see my kids every day growing together, the love between them grows more and more and I feel that it brings them closer. Having two small children at the same time is extremely difficult to do, but that’s the great thing about motherhood, it makes you able to handle the toughest of situations with ease.
My son was just a few days over a year when his sister was born and it was an easy transition to add someone to his life. He was always accepting of the fact that now, he would have one more person to love (and one more person to fight with!). The hard part came in when it was time to feed them, change them, bath them and well, go anywhere with them! As they grew, these things became easier and now I have these things down to the T.
To be honest, even though the home is a bit of a chaos (as all homes will be if you have tiny tots), I do have things under control. Raising kids close together is not as hard as everyone thinks! Apart from more expenses, life at home is actually good with them. Of course, each child has their good days and their bad days which mean my bad days, but we have relatively good days most of the time!
Two things YOU need to remember when raising kids that are born close together
Kids NEED individual attention. Try to play with each one individually as well as together, showing them that you can give them an equal amount of attention.
Create a ROUTINE for them
Many people ask me how do I do it?
For me, it all comes down to ROUTINE. I cannot stress this enough! I make sure that their fed, watered, changed and clean. I ensure that they take at least one good nap a day and they have similar sleeping times. This ensures the peace in my home, which means less crabby kids and more happy, playful kids.
Once you have a routine down, things just fall into place. I know, it’s really hard to get little ones in a routine but if you’re a stay at home mum like me, you are spending all day, every day with them and you should consider battling it out for a few days. Once the kids get used to it, there’s no stopping you!
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.