The Husband Series – Mr & Mrs Williams – Luchae – My Spreadsheet Brain
February 12, 2018
Christopher is an extrovert and I am very much the introvert, but we somehow make it work. I often joke and say that if I am a spreadsheet brain, he is Microsoft Paint. I think that being best friends FIRST, before we had any romantic interest in each other, really helped to set the foundation for our marriage.
Kyle (my son) 16
Seth (his son) 11
Karis our daughter 3
Jonah our son 9 months
Luchae Williams, the amazing blogger behind My Spreadsheet Brain, answers a few questions about her husband.
Tell me your love story.
Chris and I met at church, when we were both asked to join a make shift band, for a “battle of the bands” styled concert. The rest is musical history, so to speak. We continued to gig in and around Port Elizabeth, very much not interested in being more than friends. In fact, I couldn’t even share a mic with him – it felt awkward being that close to him! Anyways, after we dropped our respective boyfriend/girlfriend (yeah, we were both in relationships when we met), we started spending more time together. I mean, we both had a kid from a previous relationship, so we could relate on that level too. I guess it just felt EASY to be around each other, and each other’s families. We were “together” before we even knew we were “together” and before we had the guts to admit that we like each other.
Who popped the question & how?
The dating question? Well, he made me angry one day. So I said “well, fine, then I just don’t like you anymore!” And then he was like, wait what? You like me? He was in shock, because he’s the nerd and I’m the super cool cheerleader. Kidding! But yeah, he eventually asked me to be his girl with the corniest line in the world: “You know those rumors about us dating? Do you want to make it a reality?” Needless to say, I HAD to say yes to that one liner.
What are those super awesome little things that you love about your hubby?
It’s crazy how the thing that you love about each other drives you friggen up the wall sometimes! Like, I love how chilled and easy going he is. But sometimes his chilledness irks me! I love his crazy sense of humor and his intelligence. He is super duper clever. (Not as clever as I am.. I mean, the guy can’t have it all).
Name a few things that you feel, that no one can do as good as your husband can?
No one can be the daddy that he is to our kids. He is the BEST dad in the world! They simply adore him! He is also a really good musician and in my eyes he’s the best bass player this side of the globe!
If you could thank your husband today, what would you thank him for?
Thank you for not thinking I’m a crazy lady. And thank you for loving my boy, even though he has his own flesh and blood daddy.
What annoying thing does he do that makes you want to kill him when he’s there but that you miss when he’s not around?
We are such polar opposites, sometimes the smallest things annoy me. But it’s weird how I still want him around – annoying the living daylights out of me – because I know that I don’t feel complete or at ease when he’s not home. Oh and XBox. ‘Nuff said.
If we could celebrate husband appreciation day, what would you let him do/do for him to let him know that you appreciate him?
I would feed him, because we are eaters and unashamedly so. I would maybe watch a Liverpool game with him and play a few rounds of XBox. And then I would let him sleep for many, many hours because we are a tired folk and we haven’t slept soundly in oh, about 3ish years.
What are some of the things, that you simply cannot do without your husband?
He often asks me how I survived being alive during my single years, because he believes that I literally cant do anything without him. He checks on me if I have to drive to a new destination (literally in the same city, guys, not even out of town). If I get home without him, he would message to ask if I’m home safe. I guess I CAN do without those things, but honestly I don’t want to have to. I love that he checks up on me. It makes me feel as if I belong to someone.
What is the one thing you hate to do, that he does for you?
Everything. He seldom says no. Bwahahahahahhahaah. Wait, is he going to see this interview?
Share with us a memory that was shared between the both of you, that has become an everlasting milestone?
Sigh… this story has become his party trick: He took me out one day, and after a huge build up etc I was convinced that he was going to propose. Anyways, at the restaurant, he asked me to open my menu, and I thought that the proposal or the ring was in there. I searched and searched, didn’t find the proposal on the menu. Anyways, after a few seconds of confusion, he showed me that….. they sell chicken livers at that particular restaurant. He didn’t propose that night, but I was FUMING and I couldn’t tell him why!
What are the words that are most frequently exchanged between you two?
“Wow”… hahah thinking about it now, it’s pretty hilarious. We say it when we’re angry, when we’re in shock, when we’re happy, when we have good news to share. it’s like… “Wow babe.” (Must have a fullstop when you’re angry because if you don’t, are you even really angry?”
Do you have any special traditions? Eg. Valentines dinner etc
Our marriage is only four years young and in that period we literally popped out two babies. So we haven’t had much time on the traditionalist front. But we are quite fond of Christmas time and all that goes with it, I guess. We take turns spoiling each other on Valentines Day and our Anniversary. This year is my turn! Not sure what I’m going to do yet.
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.