The Husband Series – Mr & Mrs Alfino – Cindy – 3 Kids, 2 Dogs & 1 Old House
February 15, 2018
Cindy Alfino from 3 Kids, 2 Dogs & 1 Old House, talks about her high school sweetheart turned husband on the blog today.
1. Tell me your love story.
Ours is a bit weird I guess, I mean it’s not often that you meet your one day husband when you are 16. But even though we were young, we just knew. It all started back in 2002. Seth and I both went on a camp – we didn’t talk to each other (I was too shy for that) but we shared a smile across the room and everything was set in motion. I kind of knew who he was (like how you know who the cool kids are but you never actually talk to them) and apparently he found out who I was too because he sent me a text during church one night. It was smooth you know, like teenagers are. I think he said, “You look hot tonight” or something equally romantic.
Things escalated from there and we went on a few dates (with other people to chaperone us – because neither of us had our license yet). Then we started to spend every single day together. He fetched me from school and college, I helped him build his architectural projects late into the night. After about 2 years, Seth proposed and a year later we got married. I was still only 20 and so my parents had to sign to say that they were down with it. Luckily they were. Despite everyone thinking that we were very clearly too young to be making such huge life choices, we’ve been together for 15 years now, married for almost 11 and have 3 wonderful children together.
2. Who popped the question & how?
There was the dream proposal and then there was what actually happened. The dream was to go and watch the sunset on one of the winding roads above Llandudno, drink some champagne and then pop the question. The reality was that the weather turned out really crappy and so we just went to his room to chill. He played me this CD full of music that was special to us – but he had sung all the words! He even made a few of the songs himself – it was funny and sweet all wrapped up into one. I turned around to look at him and he was down on one knee – I couldn’t believe it!! Obvs my answer was a very loud and happy YES!!
3. What are those super awesome little things that you love about your hubby?
I absolutely love that he is a total goofball. The things that he thinks of and his sense of humour totally blows my mind, so quick witted and on the ball, it’s hilarious. The way he sings to songs in the car, his impromptu dance moves and those moments when we catch each others eye across the room and know that we’re thinking the same thing. He is such a grounded, fun loving guy. He’s the best.
4. Name a few things that you feel, that no one can do as good as your husband can?
He is really flipping good a t a lot of things, but the few that pop into my head immediately are… That he is the absolute best father to our children. That he is incredible at being able to draw things off the top of his head – a gift that I wish I had. He packs lunch boxes like no bodies business. In fact packing is his forte – I always forget something but he never does. Those are all practical, but if we want to get soppy, he’s the only one that really knows me for me. The only one that can really pull back the facade and know what’s going on inside.
5. If you could thank your husband today, what would you thank him for?
For sticking with me when I am being difficult. For understanding when I am not coping and getting involved without complaint. For always being there.
6. What annoying thing does he do that makes you want to kill him when he’s there but that you miss when he’s not around?
Seth has an incredible knack for doing something with lots of passion, but also precision. Maybe precision isn’t the right word. Just whatever he does needs to be completely organised and clean. So it takes forever. I remember so distinctly that to make a baby bottle would take me 5 minutes max (faster if the baby was crying), but would take him like 30 minutes because he’s cleaned the kitchen, taken out the dirt and fed the dogs in between. I mean I’m not complaining about a clean kitchen, but I am complaining about a baby screaming in my ear for 25 minutes more than they needed to.
7. If we could celebrate husband appreciationday, what would you let him do/do for him to let him know that you appreciate him?
I don’t really like being on my own. It’s something that I have really had to work on over the last few years. Like Seth needing to go away for business would literally freak me out (I think having young babies at the time didn’t help). But I am slowly getting over that. So I’d show him how much he means to me by booking him a night away with his buds to go and hike and camp in a mountain. It’s his current vibe – I don’t understand it at all, but there you go.
8. What are some of the things, that you simply cannot do without your husband?
Have 3 children. Man, Seth is so involved that I don’t think I would cope having to do it all on my own. Also, weirdly, watch series. There’s only a few that I watch without him, but for everything else we watch together, no matter what.
9. What is the one thing you hate to do, that he does for you?
Clean up vomit. Having 3 kids means that we have had our fair share of vom in our household and he always cleans it up. I LOVE him for that because if I had to do it, I’d just add more vom to the pile hahaha.
10. Share with us a memory that was shared between the both of you, that has become an everlasting milestone?
There’s obviously our wedding, the births of our kids and other weird things, but the one that really sticks out for me was travelling through Italy with him last year. I don’t think any amount of time or space will wipe those memories from us.
11. What is the most special thing that he has ever done for you or said to you?
For me it’s about the little things over big gestures. So when he makes coffee in the morning and brings it to me, when he makes supper, when he tells me that I look lovely today, or even taking kids to parties or whatever so I don’t have to, that’s pretty flipping special.
12. What are the words that are most frequently exchanged between you two?
“What time are you coming home?” hahaha
13. Do you have any special traditions? Eg. Valentines dinner etc
We have a few small traditions. Usually for our anniversary in March we go away for a weekend and explore a new to us town. We also try and go on date nights as often as possible. I can’t really think of others, we aren’t really big on traditions.
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.