#WisdomWednesday,  A happy life,  Motherhood

#WisdomWednesday – I forgot who I am

She knows who she is, she just forgot for a little while

After my bad haircut and house move, I realised that appearance greatly affects self confidence. 6 years ago, I had my hair set, nails painted and even though my sense of style sucked, I was always presentable. Now, I look like something the cat dragged in after finding me amongst debris left behind by a hurricane or some other equally devastating natural disaster.

While nothing more can be done to my hair until it decides to get a move on and grow, I’ve decided to start taking care of ME. In the past 3 years, I’ve totally lost touch with my ORIGINAL self and let me tell you, that’s basically a mid life crisis right there.

How many of you moms, look at other moms that look posche and put together and feel just a little bit of envy? I know that I do sometimes and it’s not because I’m forced to be this way, it’s because of the choices that I have made that has made me this way.

I’ve heard all too often that if your husband is offering to buy it for you, then let him. The sad truth of this life is that he does offer and I REFUSE. Yep, me, myself and I, refuse. Why? Because I don’t want to be a headache? I want to SAVE as much as we can. I don’t want to be an EXPENSE. Truth be told, this is all BS. I know I’m not going to ask for millions of rands worth of goods, I also know that I am not a headache to him and he has told me time and time again that he’s got me covered and that I should relax. So whose fault is this that I haven’t been doing what needs to be done to take care of me? Yep. It’s mine!

I’ve also in the past years sacrificed the little self love stuff for things like more sleep etc. All my choices have led up to me not making any time for myself!

So now, I’ve decided to actively make an attempt at giving myself some SELF LOVE TIME. For starters, I painted my nails! But on a more SERIOUS note, I have decided to make SLOTIME box. So what’s SLOTIME? It’s a sad acronym for Self Love Time Box. What’s in it? Well, inside MY SLOTIME box are the following:

  • Nail kit – because who doesn’t feel awesome when they’ve got their nails done?
  • A book – I’ve been meaning to read this book that my husband picked up off my table the other day. I love reading anyways and this book is about the Science of Self Realization, so it’s going to help me on my journey of redefining myself.
  • Coffee – Because who doesn’t love a good cup of coffee to go along with their book?!?
  • Blanky – Yep, it’s not a blanket, it’s blanky. My lovely, trusty, grey blanket that I received for my proposal; 4 years ago
  • Happy Music Playlist – Music is the food of love
  • My Bio Nike Night Cream
  • Heel Balm
  • My Scholl Callous Remover
  • Hand Cream
  • Labello
  • My Happiness Diary & pen

I try to use my SLOTIME box at least once a week. To be honest, after I have made this change, I’ve been feeling much better about myself!

Why not make your own SLOTIME box and then, make a date with yourself? Trust me, it’s going to do you the world of good!





Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.

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