This is not an article that’s about to highlight the worst about parenting. It’s an article that consists of the truths of parenting and some advice on how to deal with it. SO here goes..All that advice about sleep when the baby sleeps, is TOTAL BS. It’s virtually impossible to sleep when the baby sleeps. As a woman, you start to worry about that heap of laundry, supper, cleanliness and a whole lot of other household chores that will just stand still until you get your ass up and do it. My advice on this one is get a helper! Seriously!
Don’t even bother about what other kids that are your baby’s age are doing. Milestones are guidelines and if a MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL thinks it’s time to start worrying, then it is. Otherwise, trust me, your SPECIAL bundle of joy will be doing what they need to do when they are READY to do it. As a new parent, you start to obsess about milestones, let me tell you; kids only do stuff when they are ready to do it, so chill.
You know that moment when everyone says your baby is fine and yet your gut says otherwise. Go with your gut. Experience may be a great teacher, but no one knows their kid better than momma. So if you feel something is wrong, don’t second guess yourself (even if you’re a first time mom) and get it checked out. If it turns out to be nothing, then that’s fine too but it’s better to be safe than sorry.
Yep, I know you don’t want your kid to be a couch potato nor do you want a 3 year old stuck to a smartphone but at times, when you need to get shit done, you have to ease up on your rules especially if you want to sustain the little sanity that you do have left.
So you know that day that your kid refused to sleep so you made up a song and small game to get them tired enough to sleep? Yep, that’s going to last for years my friend. One day, I said to my two year old daughter that it is now mummy and baby time and that we would spend time brushing hair and doing a few hairstyles. It wasn’t a planned thing, it was more something to calm her down as she was continuously nagging. Now, she asks everyday for this time and even gets in her place on the bed to make sure that I come to her.
When kids can talk, they repeat everything! So you know that time when you mentioned to your partner that Aunt Suzie is a bit cray-cray? Yeah, you can bet your breast milk that Aunt Suzie is going to hear about it!
I know you’ve been in a situation where you’re at the shops and you hear a parent shout or scold their child. You probably thought to yourself at the time that this parent was just awful. When you become a parent, you will realise that no, the parent was not awful. The parent probably tried to explain to their child in a nice manner about 365 times before they eventually got tired and frustrated and had to resort to other measures.
Kids are heart breakers. Thats the truth. You see a look of disappointment on their face and your heart breaks immediately. My kids love my parents and when they visit we always dread the time when they have to go. The children begin to cry hysterically and don’t want to let their grandparents go. This always brings tears to my eyes.
Kids do the strangest things. They sometimes make you want to pull out your hair and then there are other times like when they’re sleeping and you miss them creeping you out. Always remember the bad days will pass and your kids won’t even remember it. In a few years your bad situations will become good stories to tell and have a good laugh at. Parenting is so unique and so special. Enjoy it while they allow you to hug, cuddle and kiss them because within a blink of an eye, 8 will become 28 and they will be living their own lives.
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.