Kids?!?! I mean, really, have you ever been in a situation where your kid was about to do something dangerous and you stopped them? Stopping them was awesome, you saved them from something potentially life threatening until they decided that they ABSOLUTELY WANT to attempt that dangerous thing and no matter how many times you say NO, they are still set on doing it? If you’ve met my daughter, you would know that she could try the patience of a Saint, not forgetting my son who now instead of 3 is showing me the attitude of a 13 year old!
I can’t hear you
My daughter has a knack of throwing a tantrum at any given time. There’s no warning, sometimes, there isn’t even a reason. This is the way she is. When she begins this amazing little performance, I continue talking to her dad or continue speaking in a calm manner. I ramble on about things that would possibly distract her and once she latches on to that thing, I continue speaking about it. On a lucky day, she stops crying and starts getting involved in the conversation that I was apparently just having with myself!
Choose A or B
When my daughter starts to cry, she thereafter asks for milk. It’s not really because she wants to drink the milk, it’s because she wants the comfort of it. Giving her the reply, “Just Now” or even the word “NO” results in another deadly tantrum with her wiping off the tiles with her body. So I begin to give her choices, instead of milk; I ask her whether she would like some juice, water or tea instead. This usually changes her direction and avoids me making a bottle of milk to go wasted.
Time Outs & Quiet Times
My daughter being two, refuses time outs and I don’t blame her. She is after all only two. So instead we leave her in the room to cry it out, when she is done and calmer, she will call out for either her dad or myself to come and fetch her. Quiet Time is for children under the age of 3.
Time Outs – our boy is no angel. So when he is throwing his own temper tantrum, we give him a time out. The rules for time out is simple, the time out lasts for as many minutes as their age is. So for eg. my boy is 3, he gets 3 minutes. To be honest, he needs longer than that sometimes; so adjust to whatever works for you.
Bye bye toys
Taking away toys is also a great discipline technique. My son hates it when his big yellow dump truck is taken away. He begins to behave instantly (okay, okay, almost instantly!). Trust me, it works.
It doesn’t really matter how many times you do the above, if your child does not understand why you are reprimanding them, they’re just going to continuously do the same the thing. Stop and explain to your little one, why they are being reprimanded and explain to them that you are looking out for them.
Do you have any hacks that you would like to share? Let me know in the comments below!
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.