Relationship Dynamics

At the end of the day, you can either focus on what’s tearing you apart or on what’s keeping you together..

Things change so fast. It’s been two weeks now that we have been living in Durban and that Avi has been living in Richards Bay. Two weeks is a long time when you are used to seeing the same person everyday at around the same time. You want to look out the window and check if it’s their car at the gate, even though there’s no hope of it actually being theirs. You want to get up at 5 in the morning, even though it was so difficult to do so before, and get lunch ready as well as breakfast. You want to shout to change the channel to ‘our’ favorite meal time program even though their not there to actually do it.

Although men are creepy and annoying creatures, we all choose one to stick to and when you think that they can’t get creepier, they do something to top the last awful thing that they’ve done. Amazingly enough, when they do disappear for a long period of time, you miss all those things that you could have killed them for. Life really is strange.

The thing about relationships is that only the people in them can understand them. Avi and I bicker a lot. Okay, a lot is quiet the understatement. We bicker more than just a lot. Perhaps if you look at us from the outside, you will wonder, “Oh God, why and how did these two get married?!?!” but if you get to know us, you will realise that bickering is our way, interfering with each other is our way and annoying each other is our way, our way of saying I love you without actually saying it.

There are many things that I cannot stand about Avi and there are probably many things that he can’t stand about me, and while I’d like to think that I am blameless, I also know that it always takes two hands to clap. And even though there are these things that we may not like about each other, there are many things that we love about each other and it is those things that we choose to hold on to.

So sometimes you may look at a couple and wonder, why the hell are they together; but maybe they have just chosen to look past the annoying stuff and to embrace the stuff that they love about each other. So while you’re thinking that these two people couldn’t be more mismatched, somehow the Gods or the Universe has matched them perfectly!

To my husband,

You know that you can creep me out to the maximum most of the time, but you also know that I miss you a lot when you’re not around. We fight at the drop of a hat and laugh within seconds of looking at each other afterward, it’s just the way we are. And although there are some things that I can’t stand about you, I know that there are some things that you can’t stand about me too.. but somehow, together, we’ve made it through 5 years and I have no doubt that we will definitely make it till eternity.

Missing you,

Your wife,

Simone Gobin

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Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.

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