Dear Gynae – A letter to the ones that deliver our children
August 14, 2018
I know that you bring lives into this world daily. You have studied what seemed like a million years and have faced life and death situations. You’ve had to make some hard decisions and see lives pass before you. I am sure you have witnessed great sadness but on the other hand you must have also witnessed great joys.
But I am a pregnant woman. Me, having a child is a huge deal in my life as opposed to you bringing children into this world every day. My child could be my first child or my third child, however, this child that is growing inside of me is special. I love this little baby inside of me already; without seeing his/her face or holding him/her in my arms.
Please treat me with some respect, because even though you do this daily, I speak to you with great respect. I will probably make a mistake or misunderstand your instruction, please understand me. I am a mixture of hormones, excitement and of course, anxiety; help me along my way.
I know that not all your patients treat you well, but you should know that perhaps not all gynaes treat their patients well. And in this world filled with doctors and patients, not all of us are alike. So perhaps a patient has wronged you, please do not grudge me because of someone else’s wrongdoings.
I’m not asking you to make ooh’s and aah’s and get all starry eyed, but perhaps, you can make it a little more personal instead of all routine. Perhaps you can laugh with me and joke with me and tell me how exciting it must be to feel a little life inside of me, and I will agree and feel the excitement pass through me and the both of us will end the session with a smile.
After all, you’re the one that might have to cut me open and sew me back up. I have to put all my faith and trust in you, that you don’t cut me open as though I’m a chicken about to be roasted. I also have to feel confident that you will have some compassion while stitching me and not stitch me up like zig zag button.
I know this is your job but please stop treating me as though you are doing me a favour. I too, pay for your service. But let’s make it more than that, let’s make it more a human thing than just a transaction.
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.