Yep, did you see that lady in the mall the other day? She’s going to kill her child, that one; and then it’s going to be all over the news. The poor child, all he wanted was that sweet in the shop and did you see how she smacked him for his tantrum? Children need to be cared for not beaten. Funny huh? The judgements that people make due to their own moral compasses. I’m a mother of two kids and let me tell you, it’s DAMN HARD. Some days, it’s more like impossible. ALL mums will understand that sometimes, after a long and hard day, it can take just a small tantrum for you to raise your voice or give your child a small tap on the bum for making nonsense.
It doesn’t mean that we are all bad mothers or that we are all going to kill our children, it just means that we are human too. The mother battling with her child in the grocery store queue could be dealing with cancer while looking after her 3 year old, whose thrown a tantrum for the 8th time today just because she opened a chips packet upside down. She possibly is also dealing with the stresses of work and home life and worrying about what will happen to her child should her cancer treatment fail.
But you get these AMAZING people, these loud mouthed, opinionated people, that immediately pass their judgement. They take video clips and pictures and post it all over social media to shame the woman that was trying her best to make her life work. SHAME ON YOU.
I’m not saying that all mums are innocent. I agree that we have seen many bad things on social media that expose mothers or even other caregivers that mistreat children, but every time a mother snaps at a child, it does not mean that she’s a bad mother. Let’s give everyone a fair chance. I’ve recently read this article from Well Worth Living on how to deal with mom shaming; give it a read and let me know what you think.
I think it’s time that we try and support mothers that are having a hard day or a hard time. As women, we should be raising each other up instead of pushing each other down.
Simone Gobin is a 24 year old, it graduate, wife to Avi and mother to Yash & Ralee Gobin. She spends her days being a mother and a wife. She has decided to start a blog as a creative outlet as well as connect with other parents. Her belief is that there is a lot to learn from other parents out there and she welcomes all advice possible.